What are your values?
What guides your everyday actions?
I think it is important to think about how you want to go through life daily, most people have this figured out with religion as a guide, I stopped being religious some time ago and hence religion isn’t an option for me, I decided to come with these set of values to guide my daily actions.
I am truly convinced I could achieve anything I set out to do if I master them and get better at doing them everyday. This essentially prepares me for the challenges of life ahead of being a Father/Brother/Son/Leader/Husband/Team Member etc.
These set of values are by no means fixed and has evolved over the years as I got older and more knowledgeable and will still evolve in the future for sure.
I developed an acronym (YAPI HOAR) for mine to make it easier to remember.
Y – You can’t control how people evaluate you (Good or Bad). So waste no time thinking about this and try as much as possible to avoid this influencing your interaction with people.
This for me is the most important value and without it, other values will be very difficult to master and express. How often do we have the thoughts going on in our heads, does he think I am smart enough, does she think I am eloquent enough, does he think I am hardworking enough etc. Influencing others evaluations of us can’t be guaranteed no matter how hard we try, so why suffer yourself emotionally by thinking about these things?? Instead, focus the energy into adding value to yourself and to the world around you with an identity.
A – Authenticity. Authenticity for me means understanding and expressing things with simplicity and clarity avoiding big terms, avoid making things complex by looking smart or speaking big grammar. Authenticity is simplicity.
P – Problem Solver. Getting any job done the fastest way possible with the knowledge you currently have (don’t aim for perfection) then acquire as much more knowledge as possible to enable you solve even more problems in future. Be very inquisitive and open minded, learn because you want to be able to solve even more problems in future. Don’t learn to brag (learning would become a burden this way), don’t overload your mind with unnecessary information, not all things are worth learning, a good way to know if something is worth learning is to ask yourself this question: can this help solve me solve a problem in future?
This value has really helped me overcome the imposter syndrome. There was a time I always doubted if I was good enough, using this mindset helped me adjust how I approached challenges. Now I just get the job done with my current knowledge, experience etc knowing fully well I am constantly a work in progress and would never be that perfect know-it-all person.
I – Improve others
There is a super joy that comes from helping people and making them feel better about themselves.
H – Humble. Don’t brag and don’t show off about anything.
O – Open and Transparent. Avoid keeping secrets be open and honest.
A – Approachable. Try to be approachable as much as possible. Smile more, avoid keeping a serious face.
R – Right Way. Do everything the right way, from washing plates to laying your bed etc. Don’t do things anyhow because no one is watching. Eventually you will realise that how you do anything is how you do everything.
Remember that everything will come and go (your status, your job, your circumstances etc) but your identity remains with you forever.